“Whatever gets you to the light ‘salright, ‘salright.” John Lennon
Yes, there certainly may be some common ground we can share along the way. Do no harm seems to be a good solid bit of a starting point for going forward on whatever path you like, but so is judge not lest ye be judged. I think what John was saying is quite simple. Instead of complaining about how the other guy lives to survive, why not celebrate the fact of his arrival. We all go through things that are difficult. Some of us face obstacles that are monumentally stressful in their monstrous forms, things like Cancer for instance. We don’t know the incredible amount of courage it takes to arrive daily on each individual path. A lot of times we’re just seeing the struggle or the result and are unaware of the many sacrifices and painful steps that are needed to propel a person forward, or even to just maintain a dignified standing position in the world. Treat others as you would like to be treated. That’s another one that makes all the sense to me. Do what you like, but do what you can.
I think the other thing that John was referring to is don’t be so hard on yourself either. We’re taught to feel so guilty all the time for not being perfect, but, really, it’s time to let go of that particular Medieval torture device and give ourselves a much needed break. You don’t have to be punished for making a mistake. That’s bullshit. You don’t have to be hated or shunned or despised for being different. That’s also bullshit. As John so kindly put it, it’s alright.